Tom Murphy, 77, a man of intelligence, Irish wit and charm, died at his home in Denver on March 5, 2013. May a choir of angels receive him and may he have rest everlasting. Tom was born in Marinette, Wis. on July 12, 1935, the child of Grace (Utke) and Judge Arold Murphy.
Murphy was a wise teacher and born storyteller, always taking his own time. He made his mark through oration that never failed to challenge the lucky listeners be they his loved ones, friends, or colleagues. He always encouraged people to do their very best in their life. Tom spent his early years in Marinette, Wis., under the watchful and loving eyes of his elder sisters: Jane, Pat, and Mary, and with his brother, Jim. Murphy graduated from Our Lady of Lourdes High School in 1953; he received his degree from Michigan State University in 1957, and was a member of the Sigma Alpha Epsilon (SAE) fraternity. Murphy loved ideas and words. For more than half a century, SAE pledges have recited "The True Gentleman," which represented their ideals, and Murphy's. He passed these values on to his children and grandchildren.
The True Gentleman is the man whose conduct proceeds from good will and an acute sense of propriety, and whose self-control is equal to all emergencies; who does not make the poor man conscious of his poverty, the obscure man of his obscurity, or any man of his inferiority or deformity; who is himself humbled if necessity compels him to humble another; who does not flatter wealth, cringe before power, or boast of his own possessions or achievements; who speaks with frankness but always with sincerity and sympathy; whose deed follows his word; who thinks of the rights and feelings of others, rather than his own; and who appears well in any company, a man with whom honor is sacred and virtue safe. - John Walter Wayland
Tom married Marcia Foley of Menominee, Mich., in June of 1957. They had many wonderful years together and five children: John (Amy), Sheila (Ara Darakjian), Tim, Jane (Dale Lamphere) and Matt (Monica). The Murphy family lived in Milwaukee, Wis., and St. Paul, Minn., where he worked at Honeywell, before being transferred to Chicago, Ill. In 1972, Murphy moved the family to Denver, Colo., where he was a principal at the former Peat, Marwick, Mitchell & Company, now KPMG. He enjoyed his career as a management consultant and business advisor. He loved living in Denver. In 1983, Tom married Connie Nehls of Denver. She, her daughter Yvonne, son-in-law, Don Goldtrap, and their children: Dylan and Desi, were a loving part of his family. Tom Murphy loved to laugh, to celebrate with music, and enjoyed many wonderful times during his life. He grew up singing around the piano with his family; he and his three sons frequently sang as a barbershop quartet during family events. He played the piano, respectably, by ear. Tom was known to lead parades around his home involving patriotic music by John Philip Sousa and homemade instruments. He loved to help his grandchildren with homework.
Murphy is survived by his wife, Connie; her daughter, Yvonne (Don) and her children: Dylan and Desirae, and little dog, Chloe Rose. He is also survived by his sister, Mary Kamps of Marinette, Wis.; his five children and two grandchildren: Aidan and Kathleen; numerous nieces, and nephews who loved him. Murphy was preceded in death by his sisters: Jane Ryan and Patricia Corry; a brother, James and an infant brother, Robert.
On St. Patrick s Day, 2013, an Irish wake will be held at the home of his daughter, Sheila and her husband, Ara Darakjian, in Denver.
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